love test

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Relationships

love test Evaluating the health of your relationship requires objectivity. This is a tool to determine the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship with the opposite sex. You then have the opportunity to try to grow in your relationship by deliberately working on the weak areas. In six months, take the test again to see if your relationship is in a state of growth or decline.

Directions

Are you ready to take the “Love Test?” After taking this test, you’ll quickly know whether your relationship has a good chance of growing into a long-lasting relationship, and maybe even marriage. Answer each question with “yes” or “no.” After taking the test, check your score results in the gray bar to the right. Have your boyfriend/girlfriend take the same test to see how you compare. Most importantly, be honest! Your future happiness depends on it!

Can you say there’s no jealousy in your relationship?
Is your relationship free of drug and alcohol abuse?
Can you say you’re never asked to compromise your moral values?
Do you appreciate and enjoy each other’s family and friends?
Have you discussed your long-term goals for faith, family, and career in detail?
Do you have complete confidence in each other?
Has experience shown him/her to always be truthful and open with you?
Does he/she always follow through on promises and commitments?
Do you talk openly and easily with each other about everything? (Including this test?)
Do you both listen carefully to one another and try to understand each other’s point of view?
Do you practice the same faith by praying and going to church together regularly?
Do you both agree that marriage is forever?
Do you refrain from using manipulation or blackmail to get your own way?
Do you like spending time together doing different activities? (Not just watching TV, mall shopping, or talking on the phone together. We recommend volunteering for church, charity, and civic projects or joining school clubs.)
When you have a disagreement or the going gets tough, do both of you respond respectfully with patience and understanding?
Have your family and friends told you they approve of your relationship – that they feel it’s making you a better person?
Do you limit your physical relationship to holding hands and simple kisses?
Have you seen each other during good times and bad? (Virtues shine during adversity. Never rush into marriage – you’ll miss critical signs of good or bad character traits.)
Do you both stay away from pornographic magazines, videos, Internet, etc.?
If your future spouse had a serious accident that maimed or disfigured him/her for life, would your love remain strong? Could you love survive without physical expression?
Do each of you dress, speak, and act modestly?
Can you admit your own shortcomings and discuss them openly?
Are you both generous in making sacrifices for others?
Does your sweetheart already have the qualities needed to be a super spouse and a wonderful parent for your children?
Are you willing to give up power and let your loved one control some of the important decisions and circumstances? (True love means frequently surrendering your will to meet your loved one’s needs and wishes without violating your moral values.)

Bonus Question: Are both of you committed to saving sex for marriage? If yes, add 2 points to your score!

Important Tip:

It’s difficult to get an accurate reading from the “Love Test ” if you’re sexually active. The powerful bond created by sex can “blind” a person to negative realities in a relationship. Consider challenging your relationship by abstaining from sex. Without the bond of sex, missing critical components of your relationship that contribute to a strong, healthy, and lasting partnership will become obvious. It will then become possible to look at your relationship objectively and work on areas of concern.

Reprinted with permission from www.lovematters.com.

Related Link: www.mylifemyfreedom.org

Here’s the scoring…

Give yourself one point for each "yes” answer and zero points for each “no” answer.

His score? ______________
Her score? ______________

22 to 25 points: “Solid as a Rock” It’s true love! Congratulations on a very strong relationship!

19 to 21 points: “Looking Good!” You’re relationship has potential. With a little work, you can become “solid as a rock.”

15 to 18 points: “Warning Signals!” It might be “infatuation.” Work on the “no’s.” Take the test again in 6 months and again in 12 months. Hopefully your scores will improve and your relationship will grow. If your relationship doesn’t greatly improve within a year, you should consider ending it.

Below 15 points:
“Red Alert!” Sorry, this may be painful to hear, but it’s probably time to say “goodbye.” It’s either blind infatuation or there are other serious problems. (If you are married and you scored below 15 points, don’t give up – get some good marriage counseling ASAP!)